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Meditation is a great way to reconnect with yourself and calm your body and mind. As a result, meditation comes with several benefits that are helpful to your emotional and physical well-being.
Unfortunately, many people believe that meditation takes up too much time and that they’re too busy to meditate. This is a myth.

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Meditation is a great way to reconnect with yourself and calm your body and mind. As a result, meditation comes with several benefits that are helpful to your emotional and physical well-being.

Unfortunately, many people believe that meditation takes up too much time and that they’re too busy to meditate. This is a myth.

Anyone, even the busiest people, can and should incorporate meditation into their daily routines to experience the full benefits of meditation.

In this blog post, you’ll learn:

  • What is meditation?
  • What is the history of meditation?
  • What are the categories of meditation?
  • How did I use meditation to fight my anger demons and win?
  • What’s a good meditation technique for anger management?

What is meditation?

Meditation is loosely defined as a practice used to both train attention and awareness and achieve mental clarity and emotional stability. The practice includes several techniques, such as breathing or moving, to achieve heightened attention and emotional stability.

Beyond this loose definition, many scholars have struggled to define the phenomenon more precisely. This is because meditation comes in several forms and is incorporated differently into religious and non-religious settings.

Let’s look at what meditation is more closely.

What is the history of meditation?

Meditation has been practiced since 1500 BCE. The earliest records of meditation are seen in the Hindu traditions of Vendantism, which is a form of Hinduism that still utilizes meditation today. Taoists developed other forms of early meditation in China and Buddhists in India.

Early Jews and Christians also tried meditative practices. Philo of Alexandria and Plotinus are two Jewish and Christian thinkers who specifically wrote about meditation around 20 BCE. Still, their views were not fully accepted into their respective religions until the Middle Ages.

During the Middle Ages, meditation became more integrated with Western religions, such as Christianity, Judaism, and Islam. Lectio Divina, Kabbalistic practices, and Sufism are just three examples of meditation becoming more intertwined with Western religious faith during the Middle Ages.

At the same time, meditative practices were brought to Japan, where they further developed and were integrated into other forms of Buddhism.

It was not until the 19th century that meditation began to transform from a religious ritual to a non-spiritual and health-centered practice. This transition occurred whenever Asian meditation techniques spread to the West. Once they spread, Western meditators found alternative applications for meditation, causing the already difficult-to-define practice to be even more difficult to define.

Today, meditation is practiced in both spiritual and non-spiritual settings. People of Indian, East Asian, and Abrahamic faiths, for example, often practice spiritual meditation, while businesspeople and Yoga-class attendees often practice non-spiritual meditation.

In both scenarios, though, meditation is treated as a practice used to sharpen the brain’s ability to focus and add clarity and stability to the mind and emotions.

What are the categories of meditation?

Since the 19th century, meditation has been divided into two broad categories: focused (or concentrative) meditation and open monitoring (or mindfulness) meditation. Each category has its own benefits and applications.

Focused meditation is when you concentrate on a single thing. Paying attention to the breath, a feeling, a koan, or an affirmation are all concentrative meditation techniques. The benefit of this category is that it sharpens your mind and builds your ability to focus on a single thing.

Open monitoring meditation is when you are mindful of your state and surroundings. The benefit of this category is that you are brought to the present as your senses are sharpened and made aware of the conditions around you.

Some meditative practices use both concentrative meditation and open-monitoring meditation, though. Such practices include Vipassana and Samatha in their meditations.

It is important to emphasize that focused meditation and open monitoring are just categories of meditation. Within both categories, there are countless meditation styles and techniques.

What’s your goal with meditation?

How did I use meditation to fight my anger demons and win?

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When I first started meditating, I did it because I read about it in a program about the law of attraction and manifesting. I thought to myself, “Why not?”

At the time, I thought it was a great way to change things in my life, and I was right- just not how I thought it would.

It took a couple of years to really feel like I could say I was “meditating,” but I didn’t have support- no one I could ask about meditation for a while.

Did I learn to manifest things?

Yes. I. Did.

But that’s not what this is about- maybe in another post.

I used meditation for anger management.

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Through meditation, I was finally able to get control of my anger. That was one of my biggest issues. All the rest didn’t directly affect my loved ones or make me look like a lunatic in traffic. It was not controlling that anger that caused my family to feel like I was a monster. I needed to improve my reactions to unfavorable events. More importantly, I needed to get the yelling under control.

As time progressed, I started feeling better, and that’s my hope for anyone dealing with that fiery demon inside you called “anger,” that’s really eating away at your insides when you’re waiting for a phone call from an employee, that starts a roaring inferno because you missed two green lights because of people in front of you being on their phones.

I’ve been there. I remember how it felt- knowing that I yelled all the time. Screw being pleasant to be around. My kids told me I was downright scary. My employees would avoid giving me bad news because I was such a bitch.

But now, when I remember it, I can take a deep breath, exhale with a slow smile, and know that that’s not me.

So, if that’s you, please know that you are who I do this for- writing, I mean. I vow to deliver the info and techniques you need, so you can feel better.

With that in mind, I’ve got a fantastic technique to share with you today.

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What’s a good meditation technique for anger management?

 According to Headspace, the first thing to do is learn to recognize when your anger pops up without letting it take you away. You know the feeling is there, but you don’t have to act on it. You can take a beat to process it and identify the root cause, so you can determine how to handle the situation in a calm way.

You must own your anger. Denial is your enemy when it comes to your emotions. It leads to loads of problems, only one of which is acting on it inappropriately.

Using a focused attention technique can bring clarity regarding the reason for the anger.

The technique.

  1. Have your meditation journal ready.
  2. Go to your meditation space and have a seat.
  3. Close your eyes and take a deep breath in through the nose and out through the mouth. You will likely notice you are breathing shallow and fast. That’s normal, and it is a signal you can use outside of meditation to identify your anger before it takes control.
  4. Imagine your breath turning into a hand.
  5. Tell it to wrap around the anger and pull it out.
  6. Then exhale and envision your “breath hand” is pulling the anger out like a magician would a long strand of handkerchiefs.
  7. Keep taking deep breaths until you feel that you are empty of the anger.
  8. With anger gone, you can see writing on the walls of your insides. It is the story of that anger.
  9. Sit with it and read it. It will tell you the reasons for your anger, starting with the surface-level reasons and ending with the deepest reasons.
  10. Once you’re done reading it, take a few more deep breaths.
  11. Open your eyes.
  12. Write what you felt and learned in your meditation journal. Take your time and write until the words stop pouring out of you.
  13. Afterward, notice how your breathing is different- more relaxed and slower.

To sum it up.

History shows meditation being used throughout the ages in a multitude of ways. Some people use it for spiritual reasons; others use it for health reasons. Still, others use it for enhanced cognition and clearing their mind. One way meditation can help busy entrepreneurs is through anger management. With many people depending on you and a huge workload, it is normal to feel angry and frustrated. What’s not normal is allowing anger to take control of your life. But you can regain control, just like I did, and I’ll support you in any way I can.

Let me know how you liked the meditation technique.

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What Meditation Did for Me During a Recent Medical Procedure You Won’t Believe.

The way I way I escaped from the event reminded me of how seasoned meditation practitioners can stand on nails with no pain… After reading this post, you’ll know more about: Meditation’s health benefits, How you can get started, including a plan for increasing your session time without feeling overwhelmed

Meditation took me away during my neurotomy.

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The way I way I escaped from the event reminded me of how seasoned meditation practitioners can stand on nails with no pain.

My back pain journey

A few years ago, I injured my back. To control the pain level, I receive neurotomies every six months or so. It is worth the pain during the procedure in exchange for relieving some of the excruciating pain in my everyday life.

If you are unfamiliar with the procedure, here is the definition. According to St. Luke’s Spine & Pain Associates, a neurotomy is a procedure that uses localized heating to cauterize a nerve. This procedure blocks pain signals from the nerve and the joint facets to the brain.

But this last Tuesday, I had a big surprise. The last few neurotomies I’ve had, I have meditated during the procedure and was in less pain and less anxious because of it. This time, I only had a few seconds of pain- 1 second at a time, sporadically. That shocked me!

While it is a minimally invasive procedure, previous neurotomies have been incredibly painful. Through meditation during the procedure, I have had less pain each time I’ve had a neurotomy. That’s because our ability to meditate and receive the full benefits increases as we continue to practice.

Meditation has played a considerable role in my overall healing too. I believe it will be even more effective soon because I can see its impact on pain. I believe this will happen because advanced meditators have been known to receive incredible health results through meditation, such as curing cancer or healing debilitating, permanent injuries.

Everyone’s experience is different, and you should only use it to supplement your healthcare provider’s advice.

After reading this post, you’ll know more about:

  • Meditation’s health benefits
  • How you can get started, including a plan for increasing your session time without feeling overwhelmed
  • Higher self meditation
  • Meditation Journals

Some of meditation’s health benefits include:

  • Reduced heart rate
  • Lowered blood pressure
  • Relaxation and enhanced breathing, since meditation allows the meditator to take in more oxygen
  • Reduced muscle tension

Meditation Start-up Plan

  • 1 minute Breath Monitoring Mindfulness Meditation

Start slow- even 1 minute a day is a good start because you will increase your ability to meditate. The focus of the first session should be on observing the breath. Pay attention to how the air feels- cold on the inhale and warm on the exhale.

  • 2 minutes Higher Self Meditation

Once you make it through one minute and feel like you have cleared your mind, try adding a minute. During your second minute, ask your higher self if there is anything you need to know about BLANK (insert the concept you are seeking to understand or the decision you are contemplating).

You might be thinking that is too much to ask for one minute’s worth of meditation and listening for the answer. In a way, you are right. You probably won’t receive a response that quickly, especially if you are not in the habit of meditating. But there’s an increase in the level of connectedness between your higher self and your lower self during meditation.

Once you’ve made the connection and asked the question, consider it like leaving a voicemail for a professor or doctor. You might get a call back immediately, or not. Either way, you will receive your information from a reliable source.  

By lower self, I mean the self you most identify with daily, hourly, or most of the time, not your higher self. Being more connected to your higher self will strengthen that bond, even if it is just a minute per day. The effect on your spiritual health is tremendous.

Although you might not get your answer in one minute, if you spend some time listening in silence- even during the activities that follow your session, like housekeeping, the answer will likely come up.

The possibilities don’t end there. Your mind and spirit are still at work while you sleep, so you could receive your answer in a dream. Remember that not all dreams are to be taken literally. Symbolism is the language of the spirit, so think in metaphors or pay attention to how the various parts of the dream made you feel.

*If you want more information about dream interpretation, check out this post.

Once you feel adept at meditating for two minutes, increase your time, following the plan below.

  • 5 minutes
  • 10 minutes
  • 15 minutes
  • 30 minutes
  • 45 minutes
  • 1 hour

Use a Meditation Journal

Keep a meditation journal and document your thoughts and feelings from your meditation sessions. If you do not have any big takeaways, don’t get discouraged. Not every session will have groundbreaking revelations, but you will be caring for your whole self- mind, body, and spirit. The point is to keep your brain tidied up and your mind and spirit connected and harmonized.

Using a Meditation Journal will allow you to:

  • Document your findings
  • Recognize patterns in your thoughts and feelings
  • Record the techniques that work best for you during specific situations
  • Organize your thoughts
  • Process your feelings

The takeaway

Meditation has many health benefits, some of which are incredible and even unbelievable. You can meditate during uncomfortable or painful situations to make them more comfortable. By gradually increasing the length of your sessions, you can avoid overwhelm. Lastly, using a meditation journal will enhance your sessions’ effectiveness and allow you to see your progress.

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How Do Meditation and Mindfulness Help Entrepreneurs? (Podcast)

How do meditation and mindfulness help entrepreneurs?

That’s the topic on this week’s episode of The Meditation for Marketers Podcast.

After listening, you’ll have a basic understanding of…

Stay tuned to the end for a meditation techno to help you calm your mind and body.

The Meditation for Marketers Podcast has a new episode!

This week’s topic is how meditation and mindfulness help entrepreneurs.

After listening, you’ll have a basic understanding of

The difference between meditation and mindfulness

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

The benefits of meditation and mindfulness.

Plus, stay tuned to the end for a meditation technique for relaxating the mind and body so you can regain control over both.

Simply click the link below to hear it.

https://anchor.fm/della-obrien/episodes/How-Do-Meditation-and-Mindfulness-Help-Entrepreneurs-eut76p

How Do Meditation and Mindfulness Help Entrepreneurs?

Meditation is more than sitting quietly without thinking. One technique used in meditation is mindfulness, which is an essential aspect of CBT. It offers substantial benefits to entrepreneurs- mental health benefits and performance benefits being just two of them. Stay tuned to the end for a 2-minute meditation technique.

Balance is essential. Without it, we reach burnout much quicker. Make sure you make time to take care of yourself. With a proper meditation routine, you can refresh your mind and body. It’s also a great way to stay focused on your goals, so you achieve them faster.

Meditation uses:

  • Help you stay focused.
  • Help you achieve your goals.
  • Keep your brain functioning at a high level.
  • Guide you through hard times.
  • Change your perception of events.
  • Change your reaction to unfavorable conditions or events.
  • Help you lose weight.
  • Help you quit bad habits.
  • And even manifest the things you want.

After reading this post, you’ll have a basic understanding of:

  • The difference between meditation and mindfulness.
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • How meditation and mindfulness can help entrepreneurs.

Make sure to read to the bottom for a quick, 2-minute meditation technique that can calm your mind and body.

Meditation vs. Mindfulness

Many people are under the misconception that meditation is purely about sitting quietly and stopping their thoughts. While that can be part of it, meditation is so much more. There are many different meditation techniques, one of which we will discuss today. That technique is mindfulness.

Mindfulness is used in meditation when you sit silently and pay attention to things.

For example, if you were in a lengthy relationship that ended in disaster, you might struggle with self-worth issues. Ruminating thoughts (thinking the same thoughts over and over, on a loop) are common in breakups. By sitting in meditation and noticing the thoughts you think, you might see that you spend a lot of time judging yourself or calling yourself names. Then, you can use another technique (more on that in another post) to change your thoughts.

That type of mindfulness is used in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is often as effective (sometimes more effective) than medication for improving mental health.

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What is CBT?

CBT stands for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It has been clinically proven to produce a change in people’s mental state and quality of life.

Some of the core traits of psychological problems often involve:

  • Thinking that is false.
  • Learned patterns of poor behavior.

This thinking and behavior can be changed, and the patient can often relieve their symptoms and improve their lives through CBT.

That might make you wonder:

If mindfulness is that effective in treating mental health problems, what can it do for your career?

How do meditation and mindfulness help you, the entrepreneur?

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Focus.

You may have had difficulty focusing before- we all have. With the pressure involved with entrepreneurship and the never-ending to-do list, it can be hard to stay on task. Meditation is a valuable tool for focusing because it allows your brain to process your thoughts. That’s one reason it is recommended that we meditate once a day, even if it is only for a few minutes.

Tip: If you’re new to meditation, you should ease into your practice to avoid getting frustrated with the learning curve. This is not one of those times to expect too much from yourself and “go hard.”

Many experts suggest starting with meditating for 1 minute and gradually increasing that time as you get accustomed to meditating.

Improve performance.

You’ve probably heard many stories in which an athlete beats astonishing records or otherwise performs at a level not encountered before. While hard work plays its part, there are several techniques you can use to improve your performance- physical or professional.

One such technique is mindfulness during your work, so you notice changes you might want to make in your approach.

For example, you might be a runner with a marathon coming up. By choosing mindfulness during practice, you can monitor how your body feels when performing well, opposed to when you feel like you just can’t line up with a sustainable pace. Then, you can use your observations to improve your run.

In this way, mindfulness is similar to monitoring and analyzing website data to improve your SEO.

Now, here’s an example for using mindfulness for marketing:

Say you’re a video marketer, and you have panic attacks when you go live. While it’s common to panic in new-to-you situations, panicking can be a problem when the video is live. You might use mindfulness in practice videos before your live event. By paying attention to your breathing, you can feel when you’re about to panic. Then, by designing a technique that helps you calm your breathing in an unobvious way, you can fight the panic during live events.  

*See the 2-minute meditation technique below. You can modify the length of time you use it to help you control your breath during live events.

It helps you clear your mind.

Meditation is a great way to get ideas. By meditating and acknowledging your thoughts, you can stop the mental noise and make way for ideas to come to you without ruminating or lingering on any thought for an extended period. It can be much easier to make decisions or create things when the thoughts come to you instead of stretching and reaching for them.

Emotional health.

Mindfulness offers the benefit of identifying destructive thoughts and behavioral patterns. Entrepreneurs often use it to counter their self-doubt.

Self-doubt and feeling unworthy are two common issues for entrepreneurs. They lead to ideas and fears of failure, and when rumination is present, it can cause severe anxiety and even anger-management problems.

Summary:

Meditation is more than sitting quietly without thinking. There are many techniques, one of which is mindfulness. Mindfulness is an essential aspect of CBT, and it offers substantial benefits to entrepreneurs- mental health benefits and performance benefits being just two of them. With a regular meditation practice, you can gain mental clarity, improve your emotional health and performance, and achieve laser focus. In sum, meditation offers you a secret weapon- even in your professional life.

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2 Minute Meditation Technique

Want to calm your mind and body?

Meditation is one of the few actions that can calm both at the same time,

which can be very helpful in times when your body is tired and your mind is racing or when your mind is relaxed but you can’t stop bouncing off the walls.

This might happen in times like

  • when you are trying to sleep or
  • when you have had a ton of caffeine and it puts you in overdrive, but now it’s time to wind down.

One benefit of calming your mind and body simultaneously is that you can experience complete relaxation and reap the rewards of your body’s relaxation response.

Here’s the technique.

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